Now they should turn on a recorded tape of their own voices, which repeats over and over, “You are the fairest couple of all! You, you, you\ You are the fairest couple of them all! You and only you! No other couple will do! You and you and you\” This recording of their voices continues [...]
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Players: Husband and hysterical wife. Activist: Husband. Setting: Home. Aim: Use of paradoxical mirroring of wife’s headache maneuver by husband in order to provoke an authentic confrontation. Game Plan: Like the passive, the hysterical woman gets headaches—often migraines—and uses them as an excuse to refuse sex. However, the hysteric’s headaches^ju?f øÿãåsevere and are sometimes accompanied [...]
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Now he sucks on the right earlobe, runs his tongue around the edge of the ear, and gently bites the top of the rim. Then he asks, “Is that all right?” If it is, he blows lightly into the ear. He then sucks on the left earlobe, runs his tongue around it, and gently bites [...]
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The husband, true to his passive-aggressive character, will at first pretend he does not see what he sees. The wife struts past him, smiling mysteriously, then returns to the desk again to dust off the top. Naturally, she must stoop to do this, and it is also of course necessary for her to wiggle her [...]
Bored couples are not really bored. They are experiencing a kind of suspended animation. Boredom is a state of mind that occurs when wishes, fantasies, and feelings are being repressed because, if admitted into consciousness, they would cause anxiety. Generally only one partner is feeling boredom, but on occasion both are. One of my patients, [...]
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Most of the currently available methods for the psychological treatment of behavioral disturbances (including sexual disturbances) are one of two models, the psychoanalytic or the behavioral. The psychoanalytic methods range from the orthodox free-association and dream interpretation to the newer methods such as primal scream and bioenergetics. All have in common the “freeing” of unconscious [...]
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Sex reassignment is a rehabilitative form of therapy, not a cure. It is used because other forms of therapy capable of ameliorating the transsexual’s suffering have not, to date, been proved effective. Initially the therapeutic goal is for the patient to achieve success in the two-year, real-life test. During this period, hormonal reassignment is instituted. [...]
Sex and sexual relations are variously understood by Americans through shifts in the respective stress given to the order of nature and the order of culture (or law). Sex may be posed as animalistic. Equally, “proper” sexual relations entail ritualization, order, and control. Even for groups within the population that accept forms of sexual relations [...]
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The clinical study of children who early in their lives show evidences of faulty or deviant gender identity formation is another area of recent exploration. We owe much to the pioneer work done by Money, Hampson, and Hampson, Money and Erhardt, Green and Money, and Stoller. Because of these and similar studies, there now are [...]
The figures on the Redbook wives who had had extramarital sex by different ages are somewhat different, as one would expect, given the nature of the sample. Twenty-nine percent of the total sample had had extramarital sex, the accumulative incidence rising from 20% of the under-twenty-five wives to 40% by age forty and over. A [...]